Earlier in the week I had a conversation with someone who told a quick story about one of their toxic bosses – and then I realized who that person was. I was only mildly shocked because that realization brought back other stories I had heard about them from years ago. This person is quite renown in the L&D biz.
And the person’s story caused me to reflect on both the GREAT and the TOXIC bosses I have had throughout my life.
My Newspaper Route boss was great – back when I was in the 6th and 7th grades. But my food store boss – when I was a bag boy in HS wasn’t.
Later, I worked for some pretty toxic people in the USN. Ever since I got out of the Navy, back in 1975, I have kept my “dog tag” on my key ring – it’s still there today – as a reminder that I would never have to stay working for a boss or situation that was “toxic” again – yeah – that’s one way of putting it.
Toxic. In the Navy we used different language.
And three times in my life that little reminder on my key ring gave me permission to leave – once at a company and a full time job. And twice when I fired clients as a consultant and subcontractor.
Not everyone is in a position to leave a toxic situation, I get that. You’ve got financial obligations and perhaps limited options, limited choices. But you should not allow a situation or person or group of people to hold you hostage for long.
Decide to get out of there just as soon as you can.
And let that decision give you some relief from the toxicity you may be experiencing while you look for an an acceptable escape route.
The person I was talking to – they left. For much greener pastures – as the saying goes.
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